Mental Health Hot Takes #4

Dr Kirk Honda reacts to mental health hot takes from the listeners. November 21, 2025

00:00 Intro

01:16 Self-care culture can cause undue pressure

03:42 Teachers should be banned from using mental health terms

11:04 Autistic individuals are frequently misdiagnosed with Borderline

18:04 Humor is the best coping mechanism

18:13 Those in the US are prone to exaggeration 

19:27 Excessive screen time impacts our mental health

25:21 We don't all suddenly have ADHD 

27:33 People with personality disorders shouldn't be politicians 

30:10 Frequent trauma reflection can become unhealthy wallowing

40:16 People use diagnosis as an excuse for bad behaviors

41:00 It's OK to use Borderline language without a diagnosis

42:33 Authenticity with clients is not about full transparency

46:35 Narcissism is both over and under diagnosed

47:10 Shame isn't always bad

50:05 Medication doesn't work for everyone

52:08 People with psychosis can benefit from talk therapy

55:28 You can cut out those that negatively impact your life

56:36 Therapists only validate their clients

1:00:20 Romantic love is unethical

1:00:58 Trauma dumping is a quick way of rescinding empathy 

1:01:10 It is too much work to become a mental health professional

1:08:13 There's too many types of psychotherapy

1:14:38 Boundaries are just a way to be avoidant 

1:15:50 Understanding mental illness is still in infancy

1:22:12 Embrace being average

1:26:10 DID is a trauma response not a personality disorder

1:30:31 Mental health issues come from family of origin trauma

1:30:46 EMDR can do more harm than good

1:33:52 Imposter syndrome points to grandiosity rather than humility

1:37:48 Social media isn't harmful per se, just in our societal context 

1:38:09 Client-centered therapists "just" listen

1:39:37 CBT is for therapists who are afraid of doing real work

1:42:08 You can't love yourself without being loved by others

1:44:54 Can someone be in love with two people at once?

1:51:22 Schema therapy is the best model

1:54:35 Mandatory therapy should be paid for by the government

1:57:23 Eclectic therapists don't understand any model well enough

1:59:10 Stop focusing on your mental health

2:03:14 Organized attachment is the exception, not the norm

2:05:09 Those in open relationships just have insecure attachment

2:09:29 It's not easy being green

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